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WARNING: This may be “R” rated!
I admit it: I was such a naive nerd when my GF now wife and I first got intimate, (as consenting young adults of course), that I could never get her bra off! Now when she needed help to get one on, I got really flustered and embarrassed. Who invented these crazy things?
Even the ancient Romans had “sport bras”. They were pretty simple cloth affairs. Now there are over 50 varieties listed by Wikipedia, and can have 30 or 40 separate components, like adjustable hooks, snaps in front, adjustable straps that get twisted, and cups that look the same (to me) inside and out. How tight is too tight, how loose is too loose, or too high or too low?
She was attending a day program, and I couldn’t let her go without the proper clothes, right? She didn’t seem to have that many, so how often do they need to be washed? And how do you dry them?
When she had a female caregiver one day, I came home after a warm summer day and later noticed she had been dressed without a bra! Was that a cultural thing (caregiver had been born in a different country) or negligence or some other factor?
I finally had to call one of my wife’s best friends to get some answers. So I learned that going without a bra is not really a cultural thing as much as a comfort thing sometimes.
And bra’s don’t need to be laundered too often, OK to use a washer, but some do hand wash them. It’s best to hook them up before tossing them in so the hooks don’t catch other clothes. They can usually hang dry in your hacked DIY shower I guess.
No secrets were revealed to me about helping to put one on, but evidently a bra can be a bother to put on and take off, even for the most experienced woman! (or maybe that friend was being nice to caregiving old guy.)
djhaley
My wife (she’s a pediatrician also – I’m not medical) used to take her bra off in the evenings to “let the girls free”, but now wears her bra to bed. I’ve started suggesting she take it off and sometimes I just unhook it without asking before she gets into bed. Sometimes she says she wants to wear it to bed, but I worry since she doesn’t communicate pain and other sensations very well. Ditto on not knowing about washing, etc – thanks for sharing!